"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering”
“LETTER TO MY SISTERS”
To all my sisters, I would like to take this time to tell you that on behalf of all my Brothers, we have failed in our duties as men. What we really needed were role models, we needed lessons and we needed LOVE. What we gave to you in terms of attitude was the one we saw as children from our Fathers. What we give you in terms of support was what we saw our Fathers give our Mothers it was never enough! Our king of the castle approach was good enough for our mothers, no wait it really was never good enough for you or our mothers. Please excuse our pre-occupation with making it, we learned it from fathers. Please excuse us for not getting to know the kids until they were grown. We were taught by the best. Please excuse our double standards it was passed on to us without our permission. Please excuse our ignorance in raising two families at the same time. You never saw the wrong in it, though we were taught that two wrongs never made itright. Forgive us for changing from run of the mill Joe at work to KING OF THE CASTLE once home.
Everyone wants to be KING. If only DAD could have been more we could have been more. Hindsight is always 20/20. The real reason dad couldn`t be better is because his father was not any better. Sisters you have to understand that your Black man is a product of his family history. He is fighting DNA, environmental and historical factors. This mean without proper knowledge of self he will repeat all the mistakes of the past in his treatment ofyou. If he could control those things he could be the MAN that you want him to be. You are expecting a love he may know nothing about. Is he wrong in his lack of perception about what you are asking of him. You could not understand a foreign language without some lessons or could you? Listen beautiful sisters, every one of you, I applaud your decision to still have us with all of our faults. If we consider the hardships in dealing with society as a despised and rejected people, making a decision to carry our seed is making a statement to the world that maybe just maybe WE are somebody.
Yes sisters your acceptance of us is our validation. FOR you sisters looking to validate a brother, let me give some unasked for advise. When you think that you have found the right brother, here`s what you do. Check out his family and his relationship with them. If he doesn`t show any interest in his family it may be better to rethink your choice. Pay close attention to what this means. Only men suffering from some type of family dysfunction have no interest in their family. This brother will usually exhibit some type of negative behavior that will manifest itself in one way or the other. This is the rule, please don`t go looking for the exception.
Sisters, I know you deserve better so give yourself a chance for happiness. It is a testament to who you really are that despite all the things that you go through with us, you can turn out childrenthat have chances to be really special. Your care in not putting their fathers down is remarkable. Your ability to budget next to nothing into a decent way of life is something magical. Your consecutive day`s streak is not talked about like millionaire athletes and you do it for free.
I love the way you sisters sit back and won`t even make a big deal about being the first human BEING the CREATOR put on the planet. You are the MOTHER of them all. It is you that were entrusted with life itself. We as men, as powerful as we think we are canonly imagine the whole process of maintaining life in the womb.
Your value to this planet has never been properly stated or even understated but still you continue on. Society has wrongfully accused you of being the Eve in the Adam and Eve story.
WRONG*** WRONG*** WRONG
You were handling our business long before then. Don`t even believe that you are responsible for the world`s problem. You have always given life and man has always taken it away.
You my sisters need to be more demanding of YOUR world.
Your guests on this planet have not been respectful of your true power.
You gave out the first invitations to join you in the continuation of life itself. Never let us forget that it was you that made this possible. This earth and the people on it need only to look to the original mother to find its way.
Be there always and forgive our ignorance. It was passed on to us without our permission. Black Women you have made a believer out of this STRONG brother. I will never question the role of the black women on this planet. You should be celebrated with the dawn of every day. Rise up my sisters and assume your rightful throne.
I Stand Accused!
As a blackman in America, I’m appalled that my sexuality is being exploited and questioned by other segments of society. People are profiting from attempts to allegedlyopen the closet door on bisexual black men at the expense of defaming all black men. This means I stand accused. I stand accused of being everything from the scourge of society to the genocidal mass destruction of my race. It’s bad enough that black men are often vilified and accused of being drug addicts, drug dealers, and gun-toting gangsters. I would be remiss if I left out sexual and violent deviants. Some of the accusations are accurate. There are drug addicts and convicted drug dealers among us. Some of our youth did grow up as members of notorious gangs, and we have committed our fair share of sex crimes. Yet, as a black man in America today I now stand accused of being a genocidal weapon of mass destruction. Statistics from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta, Georgia, say I stand accused of being less likely to heed safe sex, there-by posing a health risk to my female partner.
Who are my accusers? They consist of a handful of for-profit entities that use scare tactics to target us. The focus of this latest vilification is the alleged identification of a new group of black men who don’t identify as bisexual or gay, but participate in same-sex dalliances. As a black man in America, I’m not defending this alleged new entity of men, nor am I negating the seriousness of their posed risk and health threat to society. If only we could find a reliable source that would release accurate figures that likely will show even this group of black men represents a small minority.
There are books on the market that portray black men as living on the down low. In other words, the authors project images of black men who are willing to cross sexual lines without consciousness. There arebooks that proclaim to provide accurate information to help black women determine whether their man is gay or bisexual. Many unsuspecting, heterosexual black men are now suspect and must put up with women who allegedly search for signs of the men’s sexual preference.
A female friend informed me recently of what took place at a Waiting to Exhale party. Women at the party shared “how to” advice when it comes to dealing with their mate’s sexuality. The most interesting topic, my female friend maintained, was a discussion that included advice on how to tell whether a man was having sex with another man. It was suggested that during sex the women get their man into a compromising position to examine the tightness of his anus or rather the lack thereof. I have overcome many of the defaming accusations targeted at me as a black man. I have never taken an illegal substance or sold one. I have never attacked, raped or maimed anyone. I am not gay or bisexual. Guess what? There are plenty of black men in society who are just like me. Ralph Ellison’s Invisible Man, a black man who struggled in a world that refused to acknowledge his existence. And guess what? There are many of other black men who don’t fit the stereotypical portrait of what society has tainted of us. One would think that black men would be applauded or appreciated more for overcoming what seems to be an all out attack of our livelihood. Instead, we are forced to remain vigilant in defense of our character, our freedom and our lives. What’s next?
What in the blue hell is going on?
Why do some Black men call them self dogs?
Definition of dog:
1. A domesticated carnivorous mammal (Canis familiars) related tothe foxes and wolves and raised in a wide variety of breeds.
2. Any of various carnivorous mammals of the family Canidae, such as the dingo.
3. A male animal of the family Canidae, especially of the fox or a domesticated breed.
